In my efforts to learn how to smile again and enjoy life again without feeling guilty, I have had to figure out what helps me to feel in control. Control in the sense that I can feel how I feel but still manage my life, business and relationships.
I have some crazy moments where I feel Okay 1 second but at the same time, I also feel like I’m 2 seconds away from a breakdown. And, Im ok with having those moments, as long as I can maintain balance and control. That’s pretty important to me.
There are a tons of things that I do and avoid doing and some are for an entirely different list. 🙂 Here are a few things I do, to help me maintain BALANCE. Because it’s all really a balancing act.
- Breathing Deeply. I take some time to take deep, slow breathing. It increases the flow of oxygen to the body and promotes calmness overall. I may put on some soothing sounds or music to help calm me while breathing deeply.
- Positive Self Talk. I change my internal tone to a more positive one. I remind myself that I’m doing my best and that I am in charge of how I feel. That it’s ok to feel whatever I feel in that moment.
- Acceptance. Accept that some things I cannot change and put energy and focus on the things that I can change. No matter how much I may love a person, I cannot change how they act, how they speak and how they live. My energy is best used improving and working on what I can control.
- Responses and Reactions. I do not have to lash out angrily on others. I can still be pretty nice and thoughtful to others despite what I may be going through. Some people only love themselves. I make it an aim to love first. In that way, I am dealing with those I love lovingly.
- Generate Positive Emotions. Look for the good in a situation. I remember a funny or happy memory with my family and friends and sometimes it makes me laugh to myself. Those good feelings help me to be more balanced.
- Get Some Fresh Air. Going for a walk or taking my work outdoors helps me to feel more refreshed. Feeling the sun’s rays and the breeze gives me a sense of calm where I can think better. Even when I can’t get out, opening the blinds or the window helps some fresh air get in.
- Help Others. More happiness in giving than in receiving… Yes. Helping someone in their time of needs helps me to spend less time dwelling on my problems. I help them but it also helps me. I feel accomplished versus defeated or helpless.
- Pray and Meditate. I take time to pray, reflect and meditate on my blessings and Bible verses. As I absorb what I read, I am able to more clearly handle anxieties. Praying connects me to the Creator and also provides me with a release of tension, a sense of calmness, and relief throughout the body.
